Dr. Ingela Thuné-Boyle
Health Psychologist
Online Therapy

When we talk about healing, most people think first about the physical body; lab tests, medications, symptoms, and diagnoses, but an often-overlooked part of recovery is emotional safety: the felt sense of being supported, understood, and free from threat or judgement. Emotional safety is essential in the healing process, not just a nice addition to medical care. It plays a significant practical and biological role in how the body regulates pain, fatigue, inflammation, and st

For those who have endured narcissistic abuse (i.e. a pattern of aggressive, manipulative, and controlling behaviors used by someone with narcissistic traits to gain power over another person), the concept of setting boundaries can feel foreign, threatening, or even selfish. In relationships where one’s sense of self has been repeatedly minimized, invalidated, or manipulated, boundaries may have been consistently dismissed or punished.

Living with a chronic illness is already a profound challenge. It often requires immense physical endurance, emotional strength, and a support system that understands the unpredictable and often invisible nature of long-term health conditions. But when someone with chronic illness is also in a narcissistic relationship - whether with a partner, parent, or close family member - the burden can become exponentially heavier.

Human beings are wired for connection. From the earliest moments of life, our nervous systems develop within the context of relationships, and this interdependence continues throughout our lifespan. One of the most profound ways we influence one another is through co-regulation; the process by which two or more people attune to each other’s internal states, providing a stabilizing influence on emotional, mental, and even physical functioning.