Dr. Ingela Thuné-Boyle
Health Psychologist
Online Therapy

I've read a few articles lately about what people describe as 'medical gaslighting'. What's usually being referred to here is a tendency for some doctors to dismiss, minimize or undermine a patient's health problems. In this blog, I want to look more closely into what's really behind the term 'medical gaslighting'. You'll find that it's actually a little bit more complicated than just plain gaslighting. That doesn't excuse the behaviour, nor does it minimize its effect. Indee

While healthy individuals are currently experiencing a huge amount of uncertainty and even hardship as a result of the Corona virus, their lives will eventually get back to some kind of normal - maybe even a new normal - but with far less uncertainty. Most will eventually re-establish their routines and feel some sense of control over their lives. However, for those of us with a chronic illness, that sense of future uncertainty was always there and continues to cause havoc wh

When we live with a chronic illness, it's so easy to focus on our shortcomings. So easy to fall back on self-criticism and self-blame. You may feel guilty because you're no longer able to contribute to society in ways you would like to. You may feel embarrassed and ashamed over medical symptoms. You may feel inadequate as a spouse. You may not feel like a good enough parent to your children. You may feel like you let your friends down because you've had to cancel on them more

So, I've recently experienced quite a major bump in my ever present, complicated relationship with illness. My quality of life has been absolute crap despite my best efforts. I've had endless issues where nothing I did appeared to provide any relief whatsoever. This is not new to me. Indeed, I've been here before. Quite a few times actually yet each time, a quiet sense of despair sets in and my future seem very uncertain and bleak. Basically, I start to lose hope.

Refusing to accept symptoms or limitations brought on by chronic illness is a good thing, right? It stops us from giving up, does it not? It drives us on. It makes us fight harder, look for better treatments or, perhaps, even use it to maintain hope for a cure. It's a great motivator! Well, maybe to some degree but in the long-term, all it does is lead you down the path of suffering. Hear me out.

Living with a long-term illness can be difficult on so many levels but one aspect sticks out: being minimized and dismissed by healthcare professionals. This is unfortunately fairly common for those living with a rare, 'invisible' or poorly understood condition. When someone in a position of power treats us badly, we usually end up feeling pretty stupid, embarrassed and ashamed and knowing the unfairness of the situation and our inability to deal with it at that moment, we ma

I read an interesting blog article recently. It was written by a woman who felt completely overwhelmed by her illness, especially the chronic pain she was experiencing. Her doctor suggested that she may benefit from a referral to a Pain Rehabilitation Program that included physio therapy, occupational therapy and psychological support, but after years of not having her illness properly validated, her symptoms minimized and often being told, "It's all in your head,"